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How to Stand up for Yourself, the Scandinavian Way
You have to know what you’re dealing with to be able to combat it.
So you met a jerk. Standard, happens to the best of us, even multiple times a day if having particularly bad luck. But what if the jerk in question is someone you have to deal with on the regular? A coworker, for instance? Or maybe there is one lurking in your social circle. What if there are multiple jerks battling it out about you or congregating against you? What if they’re not actually jerks, just clueless or unreasonable people masquerading as assholes? Doesn’t matter — one way or another, you need to stand up for yourself, stat.
Most of us react by either ignoring them, getting angry, or getting upset, depending on the situation. But what if I told you that researchers actually formulated counter-strategies to thwart jerk attacks?
Enter the world of master suppression techniques (the aforementioned jerk attacks). Also called domination techniques, they have been first put forth by Norwegian social psychologist Berit Ås in the 1970s. Bringing the problem to light is part of the solution — the rest came later on, as Ph.D. students at Stockholm University proposed some counter-techniques (original article in Swedish). This is the research that inspired this story.
